Have You Forgiven You?

Forgiveness, it’s a melody that’s been prancing around me and a tune I’ve been humming for the past week. The song goes a little something like this:

“Show me how to love the unlovable
Show me how to reach the unreachable
Help me now to do the impossible
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Help me now to do the impossible
Forgiveness” – Matt West

I won’t lie the first thoughts that came to my mind were those who have offended me and how difficult it is to forgive them. I couldn’t help but to also think how rare it is to come across someone who desperately wants to forgive those who have wronged them.

Honestly how bold is Matt West’s request!? He’s literally demanding God to provide him the opportunity to love the unlovable, the unreachable, to do the impossible and forgive! Matt did what a lot of us seem to struggle with and that’s letting go of a grudge, starving resentment, and moving forward in forgiving those who’ve offended us. 

How many of you have that same fire as Matt? Are you just as hungry to push past unforgiveness and move forward in extending a peace-offering to your offender(s)?

Let’s take this up a notch in not focusing on what’s been done, said to or about you, but to ask you who are you extending forgiveness to. Is it a friend, a family member, or  yourself? Did you catch that? I’ll say it again, HAVE YOU FORGIVEN YOU?!

We are all guilty of offending someone by something we’ve said or done directly or indirectly and have received forgiveness–I hope. What many of us fail to realize is that forgiveness is not only extended to those who have offended you and I, but it is also available for you and I to extend to ourselves.

There are so many people who feel that they should walk in shame and regret even after they’ve been forgiven. Trust me I would know.

I felt like one of those unreachable, unlovable people who could not be redeemed from my misdeeds. “I can’t believe I said that. What was I thinking? If I were them I wouldn’t forgive me.” Time after time I found myself in a tug of war with condemnation.

It baffled me that even after being forgiven I still felt guilty. One of the reasons was because I hadn’t taken the time to ask myself for forgiveness. Isn’t that something, forgiving ourselves is rarely thought of and possibly one of the most difficult things to do?

Going without forgiving ourselves–to me at least–is like holding a grudge. It’s like saying we’ve received forgiveness from those we’ve offended, but there is nothing that can break the guilt and shame we may still be experiencing. There is nothing else that can be said or done. However, there is something just as powerful.

I believe that when we release ourselves from our hiccups, stumbles, and falls, forgiving ourselves is just as powerful as receiving it from someone else.

“It’ll clear the bitterness away
It can even set a prisoner free
There is no end to what it’s power can do
So, let it go and be amazed
By what you see through eyes of grace
The prisoner that it really frees is you” – Matt West

Can we look at Philippians 3:13 really quick? Paul states, “Brothers and sisters I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.” This verse can be viewed in a number of ways. My understanding is that not one of us is perfect, but we must come to terms with our deeds, let go, and forgive that of which that has been done in the past.

Lastly, it says to me let us move forward in doing and being better to those around us –and of equal importance, to ourselves.

No matter what you’ve done forgive yourself. They’ve forgiven you now it’s your turn.

Love your friend,

Erin ♡♡♡


What’s Your 10 Empowering Affirmations?

Hello lovely people! I know it’s been awhile, BUT here I am and I’m here with a challenge that was presented to me.

I challenge you to create 10 empowering affirmations. Yes! Empowering, cloud 9, can’t come down messages about/to yourself!

Too often we fill ourselves with doubts and lies about who we aren’t and who we will never become. It’s time to cut that out.

Creating my list took me a few days, but after digging deep within myself, and really thinking about the facts regarding who I AM I feel like I hit the jackpot.

So join me on the path to self discovery by commenting down below your 10 empowering affirmations.

*Challenge credited to Ashley Empowers’s Mani-fest Your Godly Man Boot camp

If you guys haven’t heard of Ashley Brown, founder of Covenant Coaching and Dating with Purpose, check her out. Her ministry will give you LIFE, no lie.

Any who can’t wait to hear your 10 empowering affirmations.

Until then nighty night! ♡♡♡

Bible Verses, Music, and Practices that Can Help in Your Season of Adversity and Transition

For the past 8 months my faith walk, willingness to be obedient, and sincerity of surrendering to God’s will has been under intense pressure. Most of what I found comfort in– relationships, jobs, finances, and other treasured values–have been pulled from underneath me in the time I needed them the most. Why? All so that God may receive all the glory and that I may know my place under His sovereignty.

God has been shifting me from man power to divine power by providing me wisdom and experience through these trying times.  He has shifted my thoughts of self-reliance to His reliance so that I may know where my help comes from. He has isolated me from distractions in order that I may fix my eyes on Him and things above. He has been removing anything in the form of idolatry so that I may know who is the true living God and who gets me life. However, accepting this process hasn’t been easy.

So to refrain from throwing in the towel altogether there are a few things I began to pay attention to. Here’s are a few pointers noted throughout my process:

  • Seeking God in Prayer and in His Word – Prayer is another form of conversation with God and His word is a form of His response to you.
  • Seeking God in Praise and Worship – He can speak to you and/or your situation through songs. Plus this time of vulnerability can also help you express to God what you’re feeling when you can’t seem to sum the words up yourself.
  • Start a Journal – God never wants us to forget where we’ve come from, yet alone how He’s pulled us through. Documenting your season can serve as a nudge of encouragement when you face similar trials in the future.

If you are struggling to release your will power, to be strong in tribulation, to remain of good encourage, I hope the scriptures, musical selections, and pointers that helped me in my time of drought, loneliness, fear, and weakness will help you as well.

Uplifiting Scriptures

Matthew 6:33 But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you.

John 16:33 I’ve told you these things so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.

Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.

James 1:3 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trails of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding.

Thessalonians 5:16-18: Rejoice always, pray continually, and give thanks.

Proverbs 12:1 To learn you must love discipline it is stupid to hate correction.

Ephesians 3:12 In Him and through faith we may approach God with freedom and confidence.

Psalm 143: 10 Teach me to do your will for you are my God ! Let your good spirit lead me on level ground.

John 14: 21 Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me.

Psalm 94: 19 When anxiety was great within me your consolation brought me joy.

Music of Inspiration

Dear Younger Me by Mercy Me

A lot of the time we regret some of the decisions we make and wish if we knew then what we know now my life  would have turned out much differently. Dear Younger Me reminds us that we are holy, righteous, redeemed, set apart, brand new, and free indeed no matter the choices we make or life has made for us.

Fragile Heart by Yolanda Adams 

In moments of confusion, fear, anger, and pain we tend to forget–at some point– that our eyes must stay fixed upon God and that by doing so we are reminded He will never leave nor forsake us no matter what space we’re in. Fragile Heart also nudges that we don’t have to be strong in our will power, but in God’s strength.

I Understand by Smokie Norful

God why me? Do you see what I’m going through? Do you hear my prayers? Will you come through? I Understand is God’s response to our requests and yes, He understands everything we are going through as He saw the same events through Jesus Christ.

He Will Carry You by Troy Sneed 

We were never meant to be strong on our own, but by the spirit of God. Christ also tells us to cast our cares upon Him for He cares (1 Peter 5:7). God is willing and able.

Crazy Faith by John Waller 

God will call us to release our prize possessions and familiarity to live a life after Him. With this He tests our obedience, faith and ability to trust Him. Through it all following Him is the best way to go.

Before you go help me by:

  • Sharing uplifting scriptures and inspirational songs that have helped you pull through
  • Providing other methods of communicating with God and/or receiving a word from Him
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XOXO AstoldbyErin